Coupling
Can you guess what are the two major problems that arise in relationships and can cause the relationships to break-down? If you said sex and money, you would be correct.
This being a wholesome family oriented article and web site, we will pass over the sex aspect and concentrate on the money issue.
As you know for many people these are financially troubling times. People are losing their jobs, businesses are going under and the costs of most everything is on the rise, and with it so are relationship break-ups. As the purse strings get tighter so do our nerves and frustrations and where to manifest those frustrations better than at the one you love. Sounds silly doesn’t it, really? I love you, love you, too. We’re skint, broke, cannot pay the bills, late on the rent, it’s your fault you bought this or that, went to the pub, etc...I hate you! A bit dramatic, but true. A recent study showed that at least 60% of all couples argue over money at least once a month. That’s a lot of arguing.
So what can be done. Communication is a fundamental here, be open and honest with each other. Have a plan, if one person handles the bills, that person can communicate what is being paid, needs to be paid and if there are any stumbling blocks on the way.
Some couples keep separate accounts and handle their own bills themselves, which is fine. But communication is still needed here as one person can run up a load of debt and struggle with it and their partner may never even know.
You can set a limit on what each of you can spend each month, or a top limit per item, before consulting the other person. Always be open and honest about purchases as hiding things and keeping secrets is never a good policy in a relationship. And also, if you need professional help, seek it out. That’s what we are here for, to help and in so many instances people wait too long and don’t explore all the options that are available to them.
OK, feeling better? Now the two of you kiss and make up!
This being a wholesome family oriented article and web site, we will pass over the sex aspect and concentrate on the money issue.
As you know for many people these are financially troubling times. People are losing their jobs, businesses are going under and the costs of most everything is on the rise, and with it so are relationship break-ups. As the purse strings get tighter so do our nerves and frustrations and where to manifest those frustrations better than at the one you love. Sounds silly doesn’t it, really? I love you, love you, too. We’re skint, broke, cannot pay the bills, late on the rent, it’s your fault you bought this or that, went to the pub, etc...I hate you! A bit dramatic, but true. A recent study showed that at least 60% of all couples argue over money at least once a month. That’s a lot of arguing.
So what can be done. Communication is a fundamental here, be open and honest with each other. Have a plan, if one person handles the bills, that person can communicate what is being paid, needs to be paid and if there are any stumbling blocks on the way.
Some couples keep separate accounts and handle their own bills themselves, which is fine. But communication is still needed here as one person can run up a load of debt and struggle with it and their partner may never even know.
You can set a limit on what each of you can spend each month, or a top limit per item, before consulting the other person. Always be open and honest about purchases as hiding things and keeping secrets is never a good policy in a relationship. And also, if you need professional help, seek it out. That’s what we are here for, to help and in so many instances people wait too long and don’t explore all the options that are available to them.
OK, feeling better? Now the two of you kiss and make up!
