Emotional Hurdles
One of the major factors in relationships ending is due to finances; it is a fact and one well known. So, with the economic downturn we are experiencing you can imagine all the relationships that are going through some very tough times, and not just financially, but emotionally as well.
One thing I have always asked people when counselling them regarding their finances is how were they handling this? Were they communicating, sharing their feelings and letting their partner know what was going on. Communication is critical if you are to keep a handle on things and not have rows over the finances. It is something you both have to deal with, together. If one of the partners loses their job, they need to be supported, emotionally and let known they are still loved and needed.
Of course writing/saying this is easier than doing it, and many relationships will fail in the upcoming months and years due to what is happening in the economy now. It always can be debated was it really the downturn and people experiencing financial issues, or was the relationship weak to begin with? Who knows?
But we will see a surge in relationships breaking up. Which is sad as money can always be made again, and people can financially start over again, through bankruptcy if need be, but people put too much emphasis on things, money, more than people and relationships sometimes.
An interesting thing that has been occurring and mentioned in the news, is that now children, young children are starting to feel what is happening as well, but in a different way. Of course kids can sense the tension in a household of relationship, but they too, are hearing more about people being made redundant and people losing their homes, etc, maybe even at home. This manifests itself in many ways in young children.
Some of the Santa Clauses/Father Christmas’s in the shops are hearing some very interesting stories this year; stories of kids not asking for as much, to kids asking for things for other people, to asking for jobs for their parents.
Also, for the parent who has been hit hard, made redundant, reduced wages; how do you explain that to a child, that Christmas will be a little less than in past years? That is difficult to explain to a child.
Well, now that we are all crying in our beers, let’s go spend some time with our partners and children and give them a bit more time right now.
One thing I have always asked people when counselling them regarding their finances is how were they handling this? Were they communicating, sharing their feelings and letting their partner know what was going on. Communication is critical if you are to keep a handle on things and not have rows over the finances. It is something you both have to deal with, together. If one of the partners loses their job, they need to be supported, emotionally and let known they are still loved and needed.
Of course writing/saying this is easier than doing it, and many relationships will fail in the upcoming months and years due to what is happening in the economy now. It always can be debated was it really the downturn and people experiencing financial issues, or was the relationship weak to begin with? Who knows?
But we will see a surge in relationships breaking up. Which is sad as money can always be made again, and people can financially start over again, through bankruptcy if need be, but people put too much emphasis on things, money, more than people and relationships sometimes.
An interesting thing that has been occurring and mentioned in the news, is that now children, young children are starting to feel what is happening as well, but in a different way. Of course kids can sense the tension in a household of relationship, but they too, are hearing more about people being made redundant and people losing their homes, etc, maybe even at home. This manifests itself in many ways in young children.
Some of the Santa Clauses/Father Christmas’s in the shops are hearing some very interesting stories this year; stories of kids not asking for as much, to kids asking for things for other people, to asking for jobs for their parents.
Also, for the parent who has been hit hard, made redundant, reduced wages; how do you explain that to a child, that Christmas will be a little less than in past years? That is difficult to explain to a child.
Well, now that we are all crying in our beers, let’s go spend some time with our partners and children and give them a bit more time right now.
